Cloud of Emotions

Have you ever wondered what our life is exactly dependent on? What is rightly needed to get going in the flow of Life? What can save our relations and What can help us prevent the damage?

The key element to all the above questions is : EMOTIONS..!!

I am sure now you might be scratching your head thinking what the term “EMOTIONS” has to do in living a life which can be a level close to what we exactly need.

Well, everything that we do, that we speak, that we express and that we relate is because of different emotions dwelling in our mind and heart.

Emotions like

Happiness (Khushiyo ki Baarish)

Sadness (Kaale Baadal)

Anger (Khatraa)

Fear (Darr ke aage Jeet)

Surprise (Taufa taufa aya aya)

Happiness(The smiles, The Laughters)

A sheer thought of being happy brings back a smile. Happiness is not just a word, it’s rather a feeling. We humans are amazing creatures, for US

Happiness is the extra masala puri that we demand from the panipuri wala,

Happiness is the extra dhaniya that we demand for free from vegetable vendor,

Happiness is demanding discount in a restaurant thinking that GST would be somehow managed in that discount,

Happiness is watching tom and jerry, shin chan and all the favourite cartoon series no matter how old we grow.

These days, finding happiness has been like a treasure hunt for each one of us. Rather than searching for happiness in big things we always should treasure the little moments of happiness gifted.

Sadness(The Pain)

The state of stress, the state of feeling left out and the state of finding life useless.

The most disturbing emotion is being sad, when a person is sad even the handsome amount in his/her bank can never fill up the pain craving in their heart.

One has to remember sadness won’t last long, and it’s just a matter of time. There might be hours of darkness but there will be the brighter side awaiting.

Often when a person is sad, thinks of ending up their life or running away from the chaos. But one has to remember we are here to fight not to escape. Sadness might give you pain for couple of hours or even days, but it will definitely make you strong enough to keep going.

Anger (The Destruction)

The RAGE, the HARSH WORDS, the terrible FIGHTS and the HURT are the biggest threat for any relation. A moment of anger and a thousand wrong words spill from our mouth.

Why is that it has been hard to control the words and the burning fire?

Why do we often forget that the rage can tear down a relation which has taken a lifetime to build?

Personally, even I have a grumpy nature, but lately have realized preventing the damage would be an easier task than regretting for not saving a relation for lifetime.

At times, it’s good to get angry but knowing that it should be within limits, an anger within LOC helps people bring close and the warmth of love and care swirls back in the relation.

Always remember anything above limits is always harmful. Let the rage bring you close and not build a wall in blessed relations.

Fear (The Uglier Site)

Fear something that brings goosebumps.Fear that could be of anything like

jumping off from cliff, diving in ocean, sleeping in haunted room, lying around to save relations,stage fear, not visiting a doctor assuming he might prick the needle ..ouch that pain which is almost like a red ant sucking our blood.

So basically, fear is just a thought that dwells in our mind and often obstructs us from not facing it. Like every other individual even I had certain fears one being “Acrophobia” and for me to look down from a 5 storey apartment was like looking down from cliff. So, for once I did think of facing it, and the craziest thing I did was Sky Diving trust me between the clouds and above the ocean I was scared like shit. I wont say that I have conquered my fear totally, but yes I now have strength to face it. There would be many stages ahead in life wherein we might have to face the fright for days and days. So becoming weak is an act of cowardness, rather facing it will not only make you strong but will help you gain self-confidence.

Surprises (The Winning One)

A person who is surprise freak would have already started day dreaming about it.

Surprises are meant for every single relation may it be your mother, father, sister, brother, grandparents, 3-year-old kid, a friend, a teacher, a colleague or your loved one. Why is that giving a surprise has been so important these days, there are certain days where words wont do a pretty job which a surprise definitely can. What would it cost you to earn a million bucks smile your loved one? A rose or a smallest gift..thats it..!! We are in an era where our social media minds have been trapped in just whatsapping or surfing. We often tend to forget to express what do our loved one’s mean to us.

Have often heard people saying that celebrating birthdays, anniversaries and remembering dates is futile. It’s all about cherishing the memorable days, not that every day has to be celebrated but some special dates should be revisited.

Cherish the days before it’s too late, make your loved one’s feel special before the love fades away. A smallest surprise can blossom your relation every single day. Keep a check on how much your smallest effort can make you win their hearts.

P.S: Let Happiness hop in your way,

Let Sadness not shade your life,

Let Anger not anchor your words,

Let the Fear be your confidant,

Let the Surprises stream your life..!!

 

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The Three Rounds of Trial and Error~Arranged Meetings

11th Feb                                                                                                                                        Sunday Morning 11:00 am

Maahi, a girl in her mid 20’s, her innocent face and her coy eyes itself explained a lot about everything that was running in her mind.  While on her way to a Stranger’s home(Sahil’s home), she kept on murmuring

“Who the hell wakes up so early on pretty Sunday morning? Oh God..What am i gonna ask him? In next few minutes i would be scanned by everyone.I hope this one ends in one round itself”. The road to Sahil’s home was still 30 mins away so she chose to shut down the thoughts and take a nap.

On the other hand, Sahil just like Maahi was not prepared for the arrange setup. In between all the leg pulling was going at his home, he heard his excited brother screaming, “Bhaiya bhabhi has arrived”. Hearing this Sahil shouted at his brother and asked him to keep mum for next few hours.

At the Entrance, Elders started greeting each other and just then Maahi’s eyes met Sahil’s, and they smiled a little and glanced away.

While elders were trying to connect the dots of each other’s family, Sahil’s mom took consent of Maahi’s parents and asked Sahil to show Maahi his room(The common plot for the round 1 meeting).

ROUND 1: Sahil’s room

Sahil (Breaking the ice between them) : Hey Maahi, you know what, only thing I liked about arranged meeting is finally a girl has entered my room.

Maahi(Chuckled) : Her fear had now disappeared, Sahil’s ice breaking attempt succeeded. They both smiled.

Sahil : Maahi, let’s do 1 thing. You might have gone through my bio data and I almost have mugged up your’s so rather than asking the same things. Lets try something new. Let’s have a round of test.

Maahi: Sounds interesting..!! So you mean, we will ask the same set of questions of course has to be the one described in our bio data’s and will see how much we know about each other. Right?

Sahil: Exactly, just an attempt to make this “Arranged Setup” easier for us. Ok, so Ladies first.(Sahil passed a pen and paper to Maahi and took one for him)

Maahi: That was cheezy. ha ha..! Lets have a round of 7 questions and we can note it down and can give the score cards at the end.

They started shooting questions about each other like:

D.O.B, Place of Birth, Native, Siblings, College Certification, Hobbies, Current job and the last one being a blind question for both of them.

They asked each other what were their opinion for a life partner. Maahi had to answer Sahil’s choice of his life partner and vice versa.

The round of questions was now over.

Maahi: So Mr. Sahil, please reveal my score card. I am pretty sure I might have nailed it.

Sahil: Mam, you sound confident, well then you are right. 6 out of 7.

Maahi: Wooho, see I told you. By the way you are no less. 6 out of 7 for you as well.

Sahil: Shall I pinch you? Haha just kidding. We have mugged up our bio data’s pretty well.

And just then, Sahil’s mischievous brother knocked and informed them that snacks had been served.

Sahil and Maahi smiled at each other and joined everyone in the Dinning area.

After this, Maahi’s family left for their home. A common settlement had been decided of “We will let you know our opinion in a day or two.”

13th Feb (Tring Tring)

Maahi and Sahil had made up their mind for a round 2 meeting and the same had been communicated over the phone by each other’s parents. So 14th Feb was the second “DATE”

14th Feb, 4:00 pm, The Iris House

Sahil and Maahi reached the venue right on time, they greeted each other. They seemed to be more comfortable this time.

Maahi (Looking around the cozy couples holding hands in the coffee-house): Sahil  “Why did our parents choose this day. I mean Its Valentines, A day for couples and what are we doing here, trying to be a couple??”

Sahil: Ha Ha..!! Maahi relax relax, forget the day and date. Lets just enjoy each other’s company as we did in the first round.

Maahi(Blushed..!! As she was again impressed by Sahil’s way of handling her): Well ya, you are right.

Just then, waiter arrived, they ordered coffee and started chit chatting about their likes dislikes, the way they want to see their life, how their families are, what would they expect and on and on

Maahi’s phone interrupted the ongoing sweet conversation and it was a call from her home. From the other end, her mother teased her asking: Maahi Would you be returning back home today or not? Shall we finalize the dates? Maahi blushed and hunged up the phone saying “Maa, I am coming home, we will talk about it later”

Sahil: Wow, its been 2 long hours, and we did not realize it. So Maahi What next?

Maahi: Looks like, some one is in hurry to get the answer. You will get your answer in a day or two.

Sahil: Ok Mam, I will be waiting.

And here with, the second round ended well. Smile of sanctification was seen on their faces.

16th Feb

Maahi’s parents conveyed the message to Sahil’s parents, that they were ready to move ahead. They even asked their consent for letting Sahil and Maahi exchange their phone numbers if Sahil wanted to move ahead.

16th Feb, 9:00 pm

Maahi’s phone beeped.

A message from Sahil: So mam, I now know your answer. ha ha..

Maahi: Smart enough Mr.

And later on their phone conversations kept on going for a month.

Round 3 (So called meet, which is set up just to finalize the Dates)

20th March, Maahi’s home

This being just the formal one. The comfort level between both the families was now on next level. Everyone present there knew that it was a YES from both. Sahil and Maahi throughout the third meeting kept on blushing and had already started talking with each other by passing some eye signals or the so called love signals. Everyone present there had their eyes on them and teasing went on for the entire day with sounds of laughter inside the room.

Sahil and Maahi tied the knot a month later and were now a happily married couple.

P.S : Some processes in life are to be accepted the way they are just like one being the Arranged Meetings. Things will definitely turn out to be great sooner or later.

So, just Take it simple silly..!!

Live your Life..Before its too LATE..!!

It was one of those winter evenings, where everyone at the cafe were buried in their warm flurry jackets. The cafe was decked up with beautiful white cages dangling with cozy yellow lights inside it. Though being a chilly cold evening, the cafe was surrounded with a huge mob, everyone around had gathered for discussing about New Year’s Evening.

Well, it had to a big bash party, after all it was 31st ~ “The last day of the kick ass year”.

Loud laughter and jokes about how their year went,how many memes did they tag each other in, how many trips were cancelled, how many more will they be planning in coming year 2018 and not to forget the big business plans which are going on since years and years were heard across the tables. With all these discussions going around, tears of joy and sense of satisfaction was seen on every one’s face in the cafe apart from ONE.

Although, the left most corner of the cafe was covered with brightest lights and colorful cages, it still appeared dull. It seemed as if the happiness in the cafe did not flew towards the corner of the cafe. A young beautiful girl was sitting there holding a hot coffee mug and lonely smile tucked over her face.

Hearing the glee around, she whispered to herself : What was so great about the year? Why is every one around smiling even when the year might not have been much fruitful to each one? Why is every one so excited about New Year Night? What is the coming year going to owe ? It’s always going to be the same.. One more year with heart breaking expectations and pain. A year more to survive.

It appeared that she was being very much pessimistic about things around. Just then some thing happened, some thing that caught her attention. Out from the crystal clear window, she saw a man holding a stack of balloons returning back to his home. There stood a small hut roadside where his children’s were playing and his wife was cooking food on hearth. Seeing their father coming back, little kids geared up with joy and started running towards his side. The man immediately hugged his kids and carefully listened to their day stories. All three of them reached their hut and his wife served them the dinner, the dinner not being a lavish one, had some chapati’s and some daal.

The entire view pinned her mind, she carefully kept on observing them for some more time. To this she realized, even though this little family is able to survive hardly, how much contended they are. She could see the joy on their face and the zeal of living their life no matter how bad their survival was.

With all such thoughts in her mind, a new soul was born in her. She realized each minute, each day and each year might or might not be worth, but at least one should be contended with what ever one possess. There’s always a brighter sight waiting for us and ready to cuddle us up. When she walked out of the cafe, brightest smile rolled on her face and she now had plans in her mind of celebrating New Year’s eve and being grateful and Celebrating each day of the bestowed LIFE (And she framed it as her New Year Resolution).

P.S : Each Day is a New Day, Erase the past bad chapters and live your TALE as a New ONE every single day.

 

Darkness…

To one of those rare winter evening..

After illuminating the city with its warmest rays, the sun had now settled between the swaying leaves. The city streets which kept on buzzing for the entire day were now silent. Hardly few tea and coffee shops were open across the roadside. While everyone buried them self in their coziest homes, she walked along the aisle of the river.

A lady with beautiful brown eyes and raven black hair, gently paced along the empty streets. She appeared to be lost somewhere in her own world, as if she was searching for something along the river side.

She kept on walking till she found a wooden bench located in the dark corner. Seeing that her face lighted up with a smile as if she had found a treasure box. The darkest corner of the city seemed to be her end of search.

After a stressful day at work and a monotonous routine, she found a source of happiness in that little hidden corner. With thousand of thoughts running in her mind, she muttered: this place is all i need for the rest of my life. Far away from the chaos of life the silence here carries my heart away. There’s no one to grumble about me, no one to point me out at how should I behave, no one to teach me the norms of society and no one to rule my life.

While she thought about all this a smile of deep satisfaction rolled over her face. It appeared as she had finally smiled after ages. She realized it’s not that darkness always comes with loneliness or emptiness. May be the world has just mistaken it. There are times in life when being in the loneliest corner can teach you wonders. The ones that are not taught by the inspirational videos that are stuck on the internet. At one point of time inspiration, motivation, happiness, tears, satisfaction has to come from within us and this can be sensed only by spending some time far away from the muddled world.

This winter evening had been the warmest one for her, though the city was covered with brisk but there was fire within her. She was ignited by the happiness that little wooden bench made her realize.

Her mind and heart were now in common acceptance and she perceived : “Nothing in life is dark or empty, it’s just our perception. We always see a half filled glass as empty and often forget that it is half filled too. It all depends on us, how we discover our life and how we let our thoughts shape it. Yes, there might be odd days too where things might just not fall in place and when no one would be by your side but that’s not the end. We ourself can heal our soul and probably in a much better way than anyone else can do for us. Labelling darkness as a gloomy thing is just not the right approach, darkness actually comes with so much peace and happiness. The silence teaches us the hardest chapters of life in the easiest way.”

With all this beautiful thoughts and a new perception towards life she started walking back.Just few steps and she paused a bit, turned back and waved good-bye to the little wooden bench: “Good Bye my Happy Dark Corner, I shall see you soon..!!”

 

 

A Room of Fear..!!

And it was a night before her solo trip. Deep inside she was scared, she wanted to lock her in her comfort zone and never come out of it.

It was first time that Anjali, a young and a charming 22-year-old girl, had got the biggest opportunity from her corporate firm and had to travel to The United States of America the other morning for 3 months. 

Like every other girl, she had no courage to face it all alone. She had often tried to delay this opportunity in every other way she could. But now it was getting over her head. She knew one day this had to happen and so today was the day. 

Anjali actually was bold and smart but some how, she had a fear of going out of her own space. She always felt that the world outside had their eagle eye on her and that they would always wait for her to commit a mistake. Although she had always been an optimistic person, but like all of us even she had some hidden fright. 

So Anjali, who was just like us in every other way, thought of taking up this challenge and giving it a try. 

Yes, you read it right — She chose to face her fear (Not all of us have the same spirit)

The other morning, while at the airport when she was about to board her first flight, she actually looked like a 2-year-old kid whose candy had been stolen. She was much horrified from inside but on her face she never let that appear. With full confidence she boarded the flight and landed in Chicago. Her first journey boosted her so much that it almost appeared like she had known this unknown city for long.

So the next step was again a rooted fear – staying alone in a Hotel room.. But that day it turned out to be different. All of sudden when she entered the room it felt like it was a pleasant one. Though at night she was a bit scared but she kept on fighting with her mind and later slept in peace.

The next 3 months turned out like a miracle for her. Yes at times she did face some difficulties, like she often used to forget the roads and end up in almost opposite direction. But she had learnt that even the wrong paths might end up in a beautiful experience. Even at her work place, people around her turned out to be friends with her in no time and which eventually helped her in performing better and better.

Anjali had found a new soul inside her. Her fear had disappeared like a bubble popping from a soap-bubble. It just took 16 hours of flight to make her confident enough. That’s how her story changed and keeping aside all the minor hurdles she always succeeded. 

So what exactly is this FEAR???

Fear which can be of any type.. may it be a fear of darkness,or of height, or of water, or of being alone,or of travelling and on and on.

But the question here lies is : Does Fear actually exist?? 

The answer to it is “NO“. In real fear is just an abstract thought in our mind. How we actually face our fear depends on us. The more we give importance to our fear the more it suppresses us.

So, Believe in your self and just face it once. Never let your FEAR kill your confidence. 

Are you suffering from Mid 20 trauma??

One more elegant Wedding to attend and I want to escape. These days my most awaited dream makes me feel tearful. Ever since I was in college, I wanted to be the most charming bride. I always used to visualize my wedding with the glitters, the bells, white orchids, glamorous decoration, appetizing food, wedding dance, friends, relatives and so on. But today I am scared with everything that’s happening around me.

Before I narrate my situation, let me introduce myself I am Ria Sharma, 25 years old and a girl who per society should have been having kids at this age. Like every other girl of my age I am the most eligible candidate for …

You might be wondering eligible for Job???

So, let me break your hunch.

Not eligible for job but the most Eligible candidate for Marriage.

Nowadays, every third person whom I meet has just one topic to discuss about me:

When will I get married?

Why am I rejecting every boy?

Have I already found someone? and many more…

Sometimes I don’t understand what’s wrong with everyone? Is marriage the last thing for any girl/boy of my age? Can’t they have a life of their own?

There’s nothing like I don’t want to get married but till the time comes why can’t I just be the way I used to be.

“A free bird flying in her own sky and just relishing her life on her own terms.”
By now, I have realized it’s not that simple. We live in a society where some predefined rules have been just stamped and it will be the same. Although few things still can be changed but everything demands time and patience which we as young blood often tend to lose.

 Currently we might feel the phase is just getting worsened every day. What we desire is just moving out of our league. We start feeling pessimistic about everyone’s opinion around us. There’s nothing wrong in having such thoughts but at the same time we should not forget to live in the moment.

Each phase of life has its own beauty, we might not be happy with what we are in currently but this might turn up to be a beautiful memory once conquered. This phase might team up with a little pressure, some arguments might lead to havoc, some disappointments might lead to pain but we must understand everything is just temporary. This is not the End of Life..!!

It’s a journey of miracles, you never know which might turn up to be a Life Changing One..!!

So all the beautiful young souls out there, “Just Relax, Slow Down, Breathe, Enjoy and Cherish it..!!”

What is Attracting Me right now??

Have you ever wondered how your one thought can change the way you lead your life.

Ask yourself – what is that attracting you right now??

Is it a good thing or a bad one?
Are you happy about what you have or are you distressed?
Is your love life complete or are you still figuring out your relations?
Is your job giving you happiness or has it turned into freight?

Hopefully by now you might be having answers of all your thoughts. Let me now reveal the power of your THOUGHTS..!!

Did you know: The thought that you emit can create wonders. A small positive thought can change your day and a negative can change your week.

Are you surprised by the gulf???

If not. then you should be. Positive thought lasts for a lesser time then negative one. The frequency at which our mind emits negative thought is double than a positive one.

Recently I discovered a Secret to deal with all the havoc which is effused from our mind. The battle between the positive and negative can be controlled by yourself.

As rightly said by Rhonda Byrne “We are the master of our thoughts”

What we think eventually comes to us, may it be positive or negative. One small thought is like a drop of water in a barren land. It’s difficult to control your thoughts but definitely not impossible. There’s a 3 step process to rule our thoughts.

  1. Ask
  2. Believe
  3. Receive

Whenever you seem to have a gloomy thought immediately ask yourself is this what you want and if not then divert your mind. Think about all the good things that has happened with you, think of all the future plans, think of having a happy to go life. Your inner conscience has a lot of power. Half of the problems can be solved by just asking yourself.

Once you know what you want start believing in it. Have a belief that you have already procured it. Optimistic attitude towards your wish draws it closer to you. If you are sorted with this belief in yourself ultimately you will receive what you want.

And at the End, Always RULE your Mind and Never let your Mind RULE you.

Your thoughts are like Shooting Stars, make a wish and it will be all yours.

Real Magic is hidden inside you, hunt for it in right direction.